I'm finding now, reasons why:
I was unhappy: I was emotionally disconnected, I couldn't openly communicate my feelings to my wife. I was completely unaware of myself.
I was relying on my wife to make to me happy: I thought making her happy would make me happy, and instead, I drug her down by putting more pressure on her.
I had no boundaries: I was controlling everything. Completely paranoid of my wife and her abilities. This is part of a bigger problem of my accountability. Which I had none. I thought I was justified and it was my duty to police. It drove me nuts, I was guilted with worry and tired with the hard work of it. I believed I was giving just as much as my wife, but I was suffocating her and making her feel inadequate. She wasn't, not in the least: I owe everything to this woman for keeping it together. But, she wasn't. She was slowly dying inside. I had been living in a dream world.
I had the wrong mindset: I told myself I could love my wife and still go through with it. It could happen and she would never know. I didn't love this other person. My life was with my wife and my children and nothing would ever change that. I would forget it.
These are not excuses, what I did was wrong. This is not my wife's fault. It is 100% mine. I caused and allowed it to happen.
Who Have I Become?
Saturday, June 1, 2013
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
January 18th, 2013 5:18 PM
Incoming Call - Wife: "I know everything, I know you slept with her."
I then had one of the hardest days of my life, well at least I thought so at the time. I picked up the children and went home to an empty house. Going through the motions of parenthood without her, my wife for nearly ten years. I waited by anxiously by my phone, after I tucked the kids in. She was courteous enough to reply back to my texts. We are to be apart, and rightfully so. I have devastated her and caused the biggest blow to the ego you could endure. I pursued and eventually slept with another woman.
I willingly involved myself, lied, and gave an outsider more attention than my family, but why? Why would I sabotage myself? Am I that unhappy?
Yes.
Incoming Call - Wife: "I know everything, I know you slept with her."
I then had one of the hardest days of my life, well at least I thought so at the time. I picked up the children and went home to an empty house. Going through the motions of parenthood without her, my wife for nearly ten years. I waited by anxiously by my phone, after I tucked the kids in. She was courteous enough to reply back to my texts. We are to be apart, and rightfully so. I have devastated her and caused the biggest blow to the ego you could endure. I pursued and eventually slept with another woman.
I willingly involved myself, lied, and gave an outsider more attention than my family, but why? Why would I sabotage myself? Am I that unhappy?
Yes.
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